LDR: Long distance relationship, a relationship you think to be stressful and lonely, but a relationship that can actually be quite the opposite. Here’s how to make it work. Whether you’re just a couple of towns apart or separated by oceans and other continents, after being in a long distance relationship for 6 months, these tricks work no matter the miles.
1. Schedule: I learned to do this the hard way. During the week, S and I would rely on texting each other throughout the day, but I got so tired of not hearing his voice or seeing his face. After a couple of weeks with this routine, I needed to switch things up. We decided that about mid-week, we would FaceTime or talk on the phone for a good amount of time (at least more than 30 minutes) and share how our week was going so far and what we had planned up until we met up again. Scheduling a time to talk or always having a time frame in my mind helped the countdown to hanging out in the same place go a LOT faster.
2. Talk yourself down and TRUST: When a lack of texts suggest he or she has gone to sleep but the snapchats from friends prove otherwise, don’t. Panic. Its hard to not assume the worst when your SO is so far away and your communication depends on your phone, but remember who you date and why you date them. Learn how to talk yourself down: remember that your relationship was founded on trust, respect, and friendship, and don’t look far into no texts back. S said, “Going into the relationship knowing my feelings for you helped me make the decision to follow through with long distance.” Don’t forget about the experiences you had when you weren’t long distance. For me, I remembered how I felt when S would get out of the car to pick me up for a date. That moment always gave me butterflies. Or I would scroll through pictures we’ve taken together to remember that being apart is hard, but worth it.
3. Communicate. Something bothering you about the distance? Say so. Missing your other half more than usual? Let them know. Communicating how you feel is hard to do, especially when there’s miles in between. By communicating to your boyfriend or girlfriend how the distance is sitting with you, you’ll build a stronger relationship and if you’re having anxiety, you’ll work it out. This tip ties in with #1 – schedule talks during the week or get a countdown app, like DreamDays, on your phone to make the distance seem less daunting.
These are my tips for making a long distance relationship work and work well, with some input from S too 🙂
Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? If so, what advice do you have? How do you make it work?