Ask Me About That Road Trip

Last summer, I went on a road trip with my boyfriend. 3 months later that boyfriend and I decided to part ways. Whenever people talk about traveling, I think about him. When I open my time hop app and see pictures from planning the trip, I think about him. When I see posts about road trips or asking for suggestions of places to stay out west, I think about him. But not in the way you think. I’m not sad. Truly, I’m not. I’m not embarrassed. I’m not angry. Instead, I am so thankful.

I don’t usually stray too far from home; I love my family too much. When he and I made it to Wisconsin in a town with population 75 after a drive straight through the night, when he and I were falling asleep under the stars, I felt free. Here I was, barely 19, and out on my own – separate from my family – for three weeks. Terrifying, yes. Liberating, that too. Sometimes not even a phone call away from my mom, I had to learn to stand on my own two feet. And I learned this right next to him.

Anyone who knows him knows adventure. I’m sure of it. In those three weeks he pushed me out of my comfort zone and to the limits. So when people ask about summer or talk about road trips, sure, I’ll talk about him. I mean…how could I not? I would say he changed me, but he did something even better: he forced me to change MYSELF.

If I can say thank you to him for anything, it would be for helping me stand alone and equipping me with the confidence and faith in myself that I desperately needed; the okay feeling with being by myself and the feeling of being free underneath the stars. These tools he gave me would unexpectedly aid me in a really hard but necessary decision three months later.

This is not a post about how I miss my ex and how I made a huge mistake. This isn’t a plea to start over and try again. This is a post in which I realize that because he is part of my past doesn’t mean what he taught me is too. It’s because of that road trip and because of the memories we made, like it or not, TOGETHER that I am happy, I am whole, I am okay.

So, yeah, the past is the past. You can’t change it. You can’t erase it. You can’t forget about it as hard as you try. But you can learn from it and draw out the good stuff and embrace it.

Ask me about my road trip, ask me about my summer, ask me about that hashtag on Instagram and I’ll tell you it’s where I found myself. And it’s a piece of me because of that.

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  • love this post! I agree with you on the fact that the past is the past, sometimes it sucks but I guess thats life! x, kenz http://sincerelykenz.com

    • Savannah Ward

      Thanks Kenz! :] Hope you’re having a good week!

  • Linda Plourde

    I love this post! You have grown and matured into such a wonderful young woman. I am so proud of you!

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey Grandma, thanks so much! I LOVE YOU and can’t wait to see you soon! <3

  • Love this! Being pushed outside of your comfort zone is the only way to grow. Xoxo Mindy

    • Savannah Ward

      Thanks Mindy! I hope you’re having a great week so far! :]

  • Beautiful post! The best way to grow is to step out of those familiar boundaries, and, no matter who it was, be thankful of the people who helped you to do so! So great, girl 🙂

    X,
    cristinawashere.com

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey Cristina, thank you!! I totally agree. Stepping out of your boundaries is so necessary and whether you like it or not, there will be lots of people that help you get to that point. Thanks again, sweet girl! :] xoxo

  • I think it is so important to go through relationships and breakups and exit gracefully without bitterness. Of course some relationships make it hard to leave them without hard feelings but I think most don’t have to be so hostile. It is amazing you learned so much about yourself and experienced new things in your relationship, even if it wasn’t meant to last, It’s okay to be grateful for the person, the experiences and the love you shared and still not want to be back together. Lovely post <3

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey Jordyn, thank you so much for your thoughts on this!! I really appreciate you taking the time to read my post. It means so much! I definitely learned a lot about myself but that’s easy to forget when you’re going through the end of a relationship, whether that be with a friend or a romantic partner. Thanks again, pretty girl! <3 xoxo

  • Miss ALK

    I love this post and absolutely needed to read it! I am currently going through loss of a friendship, and while that is a different type of “break-up” than a romantic one, this post really encouraged me to still see the good that was there in my friendship, and not see it all as a loss. Thank-you for touching me with your words!

    xoxo A
    http://www.southernbelleintraining.com

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey A, I’m so sorry you’re struggling with your friend right now! I’ve experienced the end of a friendship before as well and its really sad and really hard to get through. BUT I have full confidence that you can take what you’ve learned from your old friend and turn that into something beautiful and great :] <3

  • What I love about this blog post is its really unique perspective. I never hear people talk about their exes or experiences with them in a positive light, and I love that you’re doing that with both strength and vulnerability here. “Ask me about my road trip, ask me about my summer, ask me about that
    hashtag on Instagram and I’ll tell you it’s where I found myself.” <– This line really got me. Beautiful writing!

    • Savannah Ward

      Sara, thank you SO much for your sweet words. I really appreciate it. I was a little nervous to share this since my blog is a public space, but I really want to change the way people approach a breakup or at least inspire some thought. There is so much to learn from a past relationship (no matter if it ended poorly or gracefully) and so much to be thankful for!

  • I absolutely love this post!
    I am so glad that you’re realizing that it’s not a loss — but a gain since you gained so much from him even if you weren’t meant to be forever.
    xoxo, Jenny

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey Jenny! Thanks so much for reading and commenting! I really appreciate you taking the time to read the post. I hope you had a great day! :]

  • I LOVE this! So many people don’t think of breakups in this way and I think you are SO mature for thinking this way. <3

    • Savannah Ward

      Thanks so much Alex!! I’m so glad I could share this other perspective with you all :]

  • Lauren Ashley

    Love this post. Love how you say that because he’s in the past doesn’t mean what he taught you has to be, too. Beautiful!
    xo
    Lauren

    The Fashionista’s Diary

    • Savannah Ward

      Thanks Lauren! It took a while to learn and accept that but I’m sure glad I did :]

  • Beautiful post! I applaud you for looking at all the good things your past relationship has given you and be able to look on the bright side. Thank you for sharing this story with us

    xoxo

    Amy | Pastel N Pink

    • Savannah Ward

      I’m so glad I decided to share this because I feel as if it can help a reader in some way, whether they are struggling with the loss from a friendship or romantic relationship. Thanks for commenting! :]

  • Ashley

    What a beautifully written post! You are so mature about the breakup and I think this is what so many girls need to hear….everything will be okay!

    xo Ashley

    • Savannah Ward

      Thanks Ashley! I really hope this post offers another perspective to those struggling through a breakup. I agree 100% — everything will be okay. It might take a while, but it will be!

  • Allyssa

    This is a beautifully written post. Not very many people can dig deep and find that kind of perspective on obstacles in life!

    Lyss | Life with Lyss

    • Savannah Ward

      Hi Lyss, thanks so much for your sweet words! I really appreciate you reading :]

  • Love your outlook here. Go you!

    xo,
    Stephanie
    Diary of a Debutante
    http://www.thediaryofadebutante.com

    • Savannah Ward

      Hey Stephanie! Thanks so much for commenting! 🙂